“Uy, kanus-a man ka magminyo?” “Wala paka maburos?” “Huy, 30 na ka hapit naka molapas sa kalendaryo!” “Si kuan nalang minyoe, choosy-choosy paka tigulang na kaayo ka!” “Pagminyo na uy!” “Nganong wa pa man ka maburos?”
These statements are all too familiar and I couldn’t keep count of how many times I’ve been asked about when I’m getting married or when I’m going to get pregnant.
I know some people mean well but oftentimes, this creates unnecessary anxiety to some. Some people will even skip family reunions because they’ve had enough of these questions from their relatives.
This societal pressure is experienced by mostly women in the late 20s and early 30s, I know because I’m one of them.
I chose a life that made me happy and fulfilled yet not the typical road that society deemed usual and appropriate.
It seems that the life cycle people expect you to live is like this: go to school, find a good job after graduating, get married and have kids.
And I admire those who followed this because I know it isn’t easy. But then there are people like me.
Working online, traveling whenever she can and took the path less travelled.
I remember telling someone before that I am single not because I lack options or no one was good enough, I chose to be single because I honestly enjoyed the freedom of doing things on my own and be able to live an independent life.
I spent most of my days traveling alone and it has done me a lot of good. It pushed me out of my comfort zone, taught me how to be responsible of myself and how I was capable of making things happen.
Here’s a Sneak Peek of a few of my travels over the years
I’m so grateful I didn’t get pressured into marrying early because if I did, I know I’d be unhappy not being able to fulfill my goals as a single woman or not having pushed myself and discover what it is that I truly want.
The road can be lonely, yes, but it can be so much fun too. When you’re single, you get to practice making decisions on your own. You learn things you never learn when you’re with someone. You get to have time for yourself and trust me, it can be so fulfilling.
These might be the reasons why I enjoyed my time alone because I was able to push myself to do the things that scares me, to know what makes me happy, to get to know myself better and learn how to decide on my own.
But there are so many reasons why women chose and still choose to continue to stay single.
Ask someone, without judging, why they’re single, you might be surprised of their answer.